If you were to meet all of the Brides-and-Grooms-to-be (let’s say in the UK), we think most would be one of two types of couple. 1) Those that throw themselves into wedding planning as soon as they are engaged and 2) those that take their time and don’t feel the need to start straight away.
Of course, that’s not to say that the keen ones are fantastic planners (and everything will go without a hitch) or that those who aren’t in a rush to start booking a venue and suppliers won’t be able to bring everything together in time. And it’s not always because of your personality or choice that you adopt either approach; sometimes other factors such as time or cost can impact how you plan your wedding.
For this blog post, we’re going to look a little more at those that throw themselves into the planning straight away….
Without a doubt, getting engaged and agreeing to spend the rest of your life with your other half is one of the most exciting things you can do and once the proposal is done, it’s sometimes too tempting not to start ‘shopping’ for the elements that will make up your wedding day. However, it really is worth stopping for a moment, taking a breather and really think about how you’re going to approach this. The fun things, such as deciding on your colour scheme or choosing your cake design now, does mean that you can tick these off your ‘wedding to-do list’, but remember, if you aren’t getting married for at least another 12 – 18 months there is a definite chance that once you’ve been in wedding mode for the next 6 months or so, you may well change your mind.
So is it really worth spending time deciding on these elements when actually you can make the decision much later on? We don’t think so. For example, your colour scheme is usually confirmed once the bridesmaid dresses are bought but can change at any point up until this.
In a society where we are becoming increasingly time-poor, we would really recommend that you focus your energy on the things that really do need to be done first – so booking your venue, sending your save the dates (which don’t have to match the rest of your stationery and could even be an email!) – and picking your caterer. There really isn’t much point starting with the small details that don’t need to be decided yet; there will always be cake designers and décor suppliers available to book nearer the time and when you’ve settled on the style and design for your wedding. It can sometimes make sense to book in a particular supplier such as a florist but give yourself time to tweak your ideas if your wedding is a way off and do try to bear in mind that your wedding suppliers will need to prioritise their work and efforts dealing with weddings in date order in terms of the precise details.
And remember, being an engaged couple is such a special time so make sure you relax and enjoy it and spend time together doing non-wedding things too!
If you need help working out the best wedding timeline and planning timetable for you, then this is something we help with as part of our full planning service. Do get in touch for a no-obligation chat about your wedding.
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