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5 things that everyone forgets to tell you

There is so much to remember in planning a wedding, that it’s eye-watering. One bride commented to me recently that the job of wedding planner is “not for the faint-hearted”. Its all about planning as far as we see it and ticking off that list. Here are a few must-haves that everyone forgets to tell you!

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  1. Remember to buy a small matching handbag and fill it with tissues, waterproof mascara, deodorant, mints and lipstick; remember to hand to a bridesmaid or your wedding planner during the service
  2. Upon delivery of your invites and order of service, keep a couple for your memory box; on the day, they might go walkabout, never to be seen again!
  3. Make sure the best man has spare sets of cufflinks for the bridal party if organisation isn’t their forte!
  4. Don’t forget the teetotallers when planning your drinks. An elderflower spritzer or peach punch makes a luxurious change from orange juice
  5. Remember to budget and arrange food and drink for your wedding suppliers; they work harder when well fed!

The “last minute” wedding

 We get lots of calls from couples who don’t have too long to plan their wedding and we like to help where we can, having lots of experience in successfully managing last minute weddings across the years. 

If you’re planning your wedding from scratch in less than six months, then you’ve probably come across wedding-industry folk telling you that you’re last minute.  Here are a few tips which we hope will set you on a sure path:

 1. Decide on your real priorities, what really matters most to you and concentrate on those. The venue is the obvious one and will often dictate or inspire the rest.

2.  Try and be as flexible as possible, particularly with dates when looking for your venue. Could you get married on a weekday rather than the very popular Saturday? Or can you marry in October rather than September? It can make a big difference.

3. Tell suppliers up front of your date so as not to waste time with people who won’t be able to help you because they can’t turn it round in time. This particularly applies to buying dresses where the lead time quoted by wedding dress designers can be up to 12 months. However, note that dressmakers can often make dresses in as little as 4 weeks, if you know what you want.

4. Don’t listen to friends and family who tell you that it isn’t possible in a short period of time. With careful planning, lots of help and some flexibility, it is.

5. Concentrate first on these three things: your venue, your dress and the legal ceremony requirements. Everything else can be found through sheer determination and hard work.

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6. Get the figures right. Make sure that what you are looking at, you can afford. Check the cost of venues (venue hire, food and drink per person) in your budget before you waste time visiting or, more importantly, deciding on your venue.

7. Be prepared to make quick and sure decisions. She, who procrastinates, loses.

8. Delegate to only those you trust and with the requisite organisational skills. You will need help with this project and you will need a good team.

9. Yes, we would say this but you might like to consider hiring a wedding planner. They are used to short lead times, turning things around quickly, finding the illusive and managing in a crisis. Also, with their contacts within the industry, they are well placed to put a little pressure on where needed due to the repeat business they offer. To find the right one for you go to www.ukawp.com

10. Put it in perspective. Don’t forget to enjoy your engagement. It is, hopefully, the only one you’ll have!

What to include in your wedding invitations

We’re very busy here at Bespoke sorting out the design and print of many wedding invitations for this summer’s celebrations.

We thought it might be useful to share a few tips on what info to include within the invitation pack; it’s a lot easier to contact your guests just the once than have to send out again or follow everyone up by phone. So best to get it right from the start ….

  1. Directions to the venue or map
  2. A reminder to guests to let you know about any special dietary needs
  3. Details of dress code, if any; we like the wording ‘posh frocks and sharp suits’ at the moment
  4. An indication of the schedule for the day, it doesn’t have to be detailed but an idea that there will be dinner and dancing is good plus a finish time so that people can book transport home
  5. Details of local taxi companies
  6. Details of on-site or local accommodation
  7. If children are invited and what is planned for them
  8. Gift list – not everyone wants to put this in the invitation but it’s become fairly customary now
  9. If it’s not giving away too much, it can be nice to include what the colour theme is; many ladies worry that they will by mistake wear the same colour as the bridesmaids
  10. And finally, remember to give people a phone number or email for any queries!

And remember, you aren’t expected to know it all so do ask your stationery designer for their top tips on etiquette etc.  Chartula Studio, who designed the stationery below are excellent at advising their customers.

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Do the maths!

If you’ve just got engaged over the festive period, you will probably be starting to look at where you will host your wedding and reception, so here is our quick tried and trusted tip which we hope might be useful at this time where everything is new and it’s hard to know how to budget set.

It’s the 50% rule.

Time and time again no matter what the overall budget we find that around 50% of the overall wedding day budget is spent on the venue hire and food and drink elements of the wedding combined. So to illustrate the point:

120 Guests

Venue hire         £4,500

Menu of 3 courses          £60 x 120 = £7,200

Drinks package  £25 x 120= £3,000 

Evening snacks = £10 x 120 = £1,200

Total = £15,900

This £15,900 will make up roughly half (50% of your budget) so I would suggest working on a budget (excluding honeymoon and perhaps excluding super expensive bridal gowns) of £31,800 approximately.

If this sounds too much then we’d strongly suggest altering your venue to something less costly as it can be difficult to cut back once this large chunk of money is committed to.

Happy planning!

Castles do cost

Castles do cost

New year, new location and lots of snow!

It’s been action stations here at The Bespoke Wedding Company over the Christmas break as we’ve moved location and have a new office.We’re now fully set up in the beautiful rural setting of East Horsley which is located between Cobham and Guildford in the leafy lanes of Surrey.

We love our new home which is very handy for access to our many country weddings, but don’t fear, we will still regularly be seen “in town”. I’m a Londoner who absolutely loves the city so I won’t be kept away for long periods!

For today however we will definitely be staying office-bound with 5 inches of snow to be admired from our office window.

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Revised contact details will be appearing on our website soon but old address and phone are still operational.

Merry Christmas

It’s probably our shortest post ever but we couldn’t miss the opportunity to wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and happy and successful new year. We look forward to bringing you some informative and fun posts in the coming year.

We’ll be back in the office from 4 January!

Your day your way

We were thrilled recently to learn that one of our 2008 weddings was featured in the December/January 2010 issue of the glossy flower mag, Wedding Flowers.  The nuptials of Noor and Alan feature under ‘Autumnal Elegance’ within the issue.  Here’s the cover to look out for!

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Wedding of Sonia and Will

As the Christmas music is belting out and the waft of our White Company Winter candle sets us in the toasty festive spirit in the Bespoke office, it feels strange to be reviewing photos of a glorious late summers day wedding for our blog.

But we have wanted to share some images of the wedding of Sonia and Will we were privileged to be involved with, so here goes:

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This was very much a quintessential “Oxford” occasion with the marriage ceremony taking place at the University Church of St Mary the Virgin.

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 And the reception was a very elegant and stylish affair taking place in one of  Oxfordshire’s most welcoming, homely but grand Stately Homes.  One of our favourite images is of Sonia and Will framed in the grand doorway leading to the terrace looking over their grounds for the day!

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 The colour scheme for the wedding was a fresh yet delicate blend which worked beautifully within the classic setting. We loved the choice of long banqueting style tables for the wedding breakfast which are proving very popular at the moment.

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Thanks to Brown and Co for the use of the images from the wedding day.  Thanks also to Eden Flowers for the stunning blooms.  And the seating plan was all the work of Sonia and Will themselves!

No more dress worries

Whilst enjoying a spot of retail therapy this past weekend, I came across a fantastic new service which I am excited to share with you.

A solution to the ‘will anybody have the same outfit as me? dilemma which many a wedding guest worries about - well the female ones anyway!

What r u wearing  sorts that problem out.  You, as the bride or event organiser registers your event on their website for free. I suggest then letting guests know in the formal wedding invitation that they should register on-line once their outfit is chosen; they can even register the outfit anonymously so as not to give the glamorous game away. I suggest registering bridesmaids outfits too to help guests avoid certain colours or styles.  Inspired!

The bride probably doesn't need to register her dress!

The bride probably doesn't need to register her dress!

 Thanks to Brown and Co Photography for the image.

Wedding staycations

We are often called upon for comment and advice by the media and today we appeared in The Guardian talking on the trend of ’staycations’, where couples are hiring farms and self catering cottages for the weekend to completely tailor-make their ideal wedding celebration.

Have a read for more on this trend which is something we’ve been lucky enough to notice for a while. It’s a perfect solution if you live far away from the majority of your loved ones and want to have quality time with them in a more informal setting. Especially great if you want everybody to pitch in but we strongly suggest a great catering team on the day to ensure that the VIPs can really relax, kick back and enjoy!

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